By MICKoWAR, Jun 15 2017 04:35AM
No doubt a question many of us have thrown about from time to time. On many dating apps/websites you see search criteria based on distance, where as some people will set it to very local and others will have no maximum distance at all.
What's the go with people and distance?
My thoughts on the topic are pretty straight forward, distance can do wonderful things for a relationship, for example, when you 'go the distance' and see each other again, it can be a world of absolute magic, the bigger the distance, the more incredible and magical your experience will be.
Time, in the same capacity as distance, can have a multiplying effect, good or bad for you and your partner. If they are a big distance and you've not seen or spoken to them for a larger time than normal, your love tank could be running quite low and in desperate need of a top up, which does indeed translate to physical symptoms of pining for love, affection and attention.
Just like being underwater and needing oxygen, coming back up for air later than anticipated, can and will send the body into fight mode, causing slight panic but still increasing your ability to fight and get to air sooner. Can you imagine that breath of air as you finally get back to the surface? So much relief.
Maybe you work well with time and distance between you, maybe it's good to help weed out the unwanted things in life, ie having tied all your emotions to one person and it not working out. At the end of the day, you want instant gratification, don't you? We all do, and it's fine. But the best results come from dedication to a goal or outcome. It's often the same for most things in life too.
Wanting the instant satisfaction could leave people seeing you as desperate or at the very least, impatient. All good things will come to people who work for them, not who wait... Waiting shows no progress.
I used to be the type of person who would not be willing to travel too far to see a love interest. In fact, if I had to travel to the other side of the city, it was a big effort.
Recently I enjoyed an opportunity travelling to Asia. Having already done plenty of personal development and being single for some time, I wasn't thinking about anybody, but enjoying my own company on the journey.
Within a week, that had changed, something magical had started to begin in my life and opened my mind to the bigger picture in life. Literally sending me into a huge whirlwind of action, in my personal and romantic life.
In this time, I learnt so much more than I would have expected, and I came back home a VERY different person, the person writing this article to help others.
What did I learn for me from this experience?
-Distance doesn't have to mean anything if you don't want it to.
-Time is important to make the most of the moment with.
-Fuel your intentions with love.
-Don't be quick to anger.
-Speak your mind.
-Integrity is the key to everything you want to achieve.
In finishing.. Work towards your goal, develop yourself into a next level human, and even if things don't work out, you may be surprised at what becomes part of your life as things progress.